Getting Through Divorce #divorcehelp #divorcetherapy

21

Sep
2015
Posted By : Sally Dee 0 Comment

HOW TO MOVE PAST BEING ALONE

Divorce. Not easy for anyone. I see many people that need help and counseling through the changes that divorce will be bringing to their lives. They often seek the support of therapy to help them move forward with their lives and be happy. Many want to understand how they can be better versions of themselves so they won’t make the same mistakes in their next relationship.

But what I see again and again is a fear of being alone.

After years of being married and having a partner by your side, being alone can feel overwhelming and bring out feelings of loneliness, anxiety and even depression. The same thing that many people fear in the beginning of their divorce often ends up being the best part of their new life.

Here is how to enjoy your newfound time alone:

1. Create a new “family” tradition.

Family doesn’t have to be a traditional structure. Family can consist of good friends and people that you love. Spend time with people you are close to. Don’t wait for the invite- ask to stop by, cook out, go for coffee.

2. Help others

Nothing is more grounding than helping people in the community. If you have a service, provide it for free to someone that couldn’t normally afford it. Help at a food bank or something that appeals you. You will be surprised at how energized the body and mind feel after being generous with others.

3. Focus on the positive.

Notice your tendencies and when you feel out of alignment with “joy”. You can change your interactions with others by slowing down. You can even change your interactions just by focusing on the good and positive. Cooking for one can be lovely when you focus on how great it feels to make a great meal just for you with all your favorites in it.

4. Do what you love.

You are the decision maker now. How do you want to fill your time? You can spend a whole Saturday reading a book. If you are doing what you love, being alone feels really good.

5. Get outside

Go for a walk and contemplate the beauty of your surroundings. A guided hike is a great way to meet other people, too. Or really go for the great outdoors and plan a solo trip- there are tons of group travel options where you could meet other people like on a yoga retreat.

Just because you are single, does not mean you have to lonely. There are so many ways to get involved and connect with others. The thing about being single is you get to choose when to be with others and when being by yourself would be great. You are meeting your own needs and that is really, really rewarding.

Breakup Advice You Need to Hear

10

Aug
2015
Posted By : Sally Dee 0 Comment
If you are suffering from the anguish of a break-up, here is a quote you need to hear and really think about:

Breakup Advice

This is a quote from Helen Keller that can relate to so many trials and tribulations in our lives, but is wonderful advice for the post break-up individual. We often lament about the past, often even re-creating it with a rosier glow, and wishing for a different outcome. The more time we spend looking at the closed door (the past relationship), the less likely we are to see the possibilities of the future.

I encourage you to look forward at what doors might be opening for you with the freedom of being single. You may be surprised at all the good you can experience once you let go of the past and move forward with a brave, open heart and mind.