Learn to Control Your Mind

What are you thinking about right now? Chances are you are having an interesting discussion with yourself even as you are reading this blog. You may have a story from the past looping through your mind as you imagine new possible endings. Maybe you are thinking of the future and some conversation or situation that could possibly happen someday. The mind can be like a distracted child wandering from one thing to another without ever living in the reality of “now”.

My hope is that you are fully engaged and completely engulfed in this article because the alternative state of distraction is not good for you over time. When the mind is wandering around, it depletes your mental energy and keeps you from connecting with the things in your life that are real and true.

So, let’s go back to the initial question: what are you thinking about right now? To control the mind, we have to understand its patterns. Try this awareness experiment. When you wake up tomorrow, start noticing and documenting what you think about, even the silly ridiculous. It’s just for your eyes only so write it all down. But, I warn you, you may be blown away by what you discover.

Looking at your observations, would you say your thoughts were mostly positive or mostly negative? If you said negative, were they based on anxiety, stress, being hard on yourself or a loved one, or just feeling dog-tired?

The health of your mind is just as important as the health of your body. For the mind to be healthy, we need to stay in more positive feedback loops.


Your brain is fueled by serotonin, a hormone that is responsible for generating feelings of happiness and contentment. Stress depletes serotonin, as does lack of sleep and poor nutritional health. If you are not taking care of your health and this hormone is constantly being depleted, it is going to be very hard for your brain to stay optimistic. It’s like expecting your car to run well on low oil. It will for a bit, but over time, the car will start to show signs of poor “health”. You need your oil at its optimal level to go the distance and deal with the demands of your life!

As stress depletes serotonin, it causes the stress hormone, cortisol, to rise. So, here’s the deal: Being overly stressed and worried is going to generate more stress and more worry in your life.

Your life begins with your thoughts.

Your thoughts lead to your actions. Get control of your mind and you will gain greater control over the direction of your life. There are many tools that can help you quiet the mind:



Deep breathing



Quiet moments in nature

Walk, jog, bike, swim outside

Tai chi

Eat well- “Live” food like fruits, vegetables, and healthy grains

Get excited about something you love


Good night sleep

Engage fully in something new like a music or art class


There are things you should eliminate to keep your mind at its optimal health:

Staying up late

Fueling up on sugars and artificial foods

Couch potato syndrome


Criticism and judgement of others

Overindulgence in drugs and alcohol

Overly busy

No “me” time

These lists are broad but efficient. Begin making positive changes today in your mind and will see how those positive changes will branch out through everything you do. But nothing changes until we see it. So observe the mind and then you will know what you need to do.