ADD/ADHD and Your Relationship

20

Feb
2014
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ADD/ADHD and Your Relationship

Intimate CoupleADD/ADHD is a disorder that affects children and grown-ups. It can make one forgetful, disorganized, restless, and unfocused. But it can also bring bursts of creativity, energy, spontaneity, and a wonderful ability to think out of the box. If you are in a relationship with someone with ADD/ ADHD, you have probably experienced some of these traits in your partner. There may be times you adore the capabilities they have while, at other times, you don’t know what you are going to do with them! Any relationship requires patience, love and a whole lot of understanding to make it through the hurdles of life together. Here are some tips to help you feel happy and content in your relationship:

Do some research on ADD/ADHD

Go on the Internet or read on a book on the disorder. Learn what triggers ADD/ADHD, the symptoms, and helpful tools to manage the disorder. The information you gather will help you understand your partner and approach them with more sensitivity.

Support

If you find there is any area of frustration due to the disorder, help your partner see a way to remedy it. For instance, if your partner has a hard time focusing, enroll in a meditation class together. Help your partner organize by giving a clear, written plan of the day/ week/ month. You are a team!

Communication

Listening is often the best form of communication there is. Open the doors to communication by listening with an open mind to your partner’s ADD/ADHD struggles. He or she may experience periods of low self- esteem, embarrassment, disappointment or even hopelessness associated with the disorder. Do not add extra pressure or put-downs. After you have listened to your partner, you can share how you feel affected too. Then, there is time for problem solving and resolving the issue with love and compassion on both sides.

Mindfulness

Mindfulness is an approach to help focus the mind. It is useful in most people and can be learned from books, meditation CD’s or with the help of a therapist. Committing to a mindfulness practice together makes a wonderful date night!

Be understanding, strong, and focused to bring out the positives in your partner. When your ADD/ADHD partner feels balanced, they will be able to the same back to you.

An Unhealthy Gut & Anxiety

24

Sep
2013
Posted By : Sally Dee 0 Comment
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I always like to consider thinking, “outside of the box,” and I believe some “alternative ideas” really can and do work. Please take a moment to read:  http://abcnews.go.com/Health/anxiety-head-gut/story?id=20229136

I have known about Dr. James Greenblatt, a Boston-area psychiatrist, for some time now. He worked at McLeans Hospital when I was receiving my clinical training. McLeans is a premier mental health facility that works with Harvard’s Medical School.  Greenblatt does not practice “alternative medicine,” rather he is an expert psychopharmacologist. He has since left McLeans and is now a clinical faculty member at Tufts Medical School.

“Dr. Greenblatt, like many others, are beginning to recognize the power of healthy gut bacteria. The average adult carries up to five pounds of bacteria — trillions of microbes — in their digestive tract alone.

A recent study in the journal Science showed that thin and fat people have different bacteria — a discovery that could lead to weight-loss programs. Doctors have also been using fecal transplants to seniors when their gastrointestinal health is compromised in nursing home living.”

Dr. Greenblatt believes there may be a link between what’s in your gut and what’s in your head. He goes so far as to suggest that certain bacterias actually may play a role in the following disorders such as anxiety, schizophrenia and autism. “In some patients, the strep bacterium has been linked to OCD in a condition known as PANDAS.”

“According to, Jane Foster, associate professor of neuroscience and behavioral science and part of the McMaster University & Brain-Body Institute.

“Anyone who has a mental health disorder that coincides with a GI disorder is a good candidate for probiotics,” she said.

One such candidate was Adam Johnson, who since the age of 5 has struggled with ADHD, anxiety and some mood disorders, and has been treated with a variety of medications.

“We know now he had too much stimulation and realize his brain worked differently than everyone else’s,” said his mother, Kay Lynn Johnson of Massachusetts.

“Adam is a very slow processor and deep thinker and has an incredibly divergent brain going a thousand miles an hour all the time,” she said.

For many years, he was treated by a well-respected pharmacologist and a therapist, according to Johnson. But prescription medications were not working well enough, and by the time he was 14, his family turned to integrative medicine looking for a “broader range of tools.” His urine and blood tests found a bacterial imbalance.

“I don’t want to bad mouth drugs — they have a place,” said Johnson. “But I think there’s more to learn.”

Last year, he was taken off all medications, put on a special diet and treated with probiotics. “Friends, family and his teacher were amazed,” said his mother.

Today, Adam is in honors classes, playing clarinet in the band and doing well. “It’s been a real triumph,” she said.”

For a more in depth look on this topic, I recommend reading:

ADULT ADD – Finding Therapy in Tampa for Chronic Disorganization

24

Apr
2012
Posted By : Sally Dee 0 Comment
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Most of us are familiar with the terms adult ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) and ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). It’s hard to operate in today’s society and not feel affected by the various entities vying for our attention. Not being able to focus is an obvious symptom of adult ADD, but we all experience bouts of lack of concentration at some time or another. Let’s look at another symptom that may require treatment in therapy (Tampa).

I’d like to ask you if this scenario sounds familiar… Just yesterday you felt as though you could not get out of your own way. You didn’t accomplish anything and yet, you were so exhausted at the end of the day! Maybe your partner complained again about a task you forgot to manage. So you begin to ask yourself, “Could I have adult ADD? Seems like I do. I’m disorganized, my home has overwhelming clutter, and I feel as though I am always late. Maybe I need therapy (Tampa).”

I’m here to explain to you that adult ADD is a complicated issue, and so is defining its symptoms. Some individuals end up feeling so stressed that their “organized mind” shuts down. Others have a long-term history of feeling perpetually behind the eight ball, never able to catch up.

Seeking advice and therapy from a specialist can help you determine if you are going through a stressful period and just dealing with a temporary state or if you are chronically disorganized, which is commonly associated with adult ADD.

A patient of mine, who we’ll refer to as “Janie,” came to me for therapy because her husband was fed up with the ongoing chaos in their home. Janie worked with me to find solutions to her daily concerns. And with hard work, she was able to make small changes that had lasting, transformative results. For someone like Janie, a combination of therapy to help anxiety and depression, combined with coaching to address areas of disorganization, can help.