Breakup Advice You Need to Hear

10

Aug
2015
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If you are suffering from the anguish of a break-up, here is a quote you need to hear and really think about:

Breakup Advice

This is a quote from Helen Keller that can relate to so many trials and tribulations in our lives, but is wonderful advice for the post break-up individual. We often lament about the past, often even re-creating it with a rosier glow, and wishing for a different outcome. The more time we spend looking at the closed door (the past relationship), the less likely we are to see the possibilities of the future.

I encourage you to look forward at what doors might be opening for you with the freedom of being single. You may be surprised at all the good you can experience once you let go of the past and move forward with a brave, open heart and mind.

 

 

 

 

Four Mantras for a Healthy Relationship

04

Sep
2014
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Four Mantras for a Healthy Relationship

The Four MantrasFrom the time we are just teenagers, we come to understand that relationships are hard. We get wounded from cycles of love, from the passion and to the heart-wrenching break-ups. Sometimes we are the one causing the pain while other times we are on the receiving end. Until at some point in our adult lives, we may find the person that we want a long term relationship with, the kind of relationship that fosters growth, acceptance and true love. And then we realize that this too is hard. Feelings get hurt until emotions get pushed deep down inside leading to a relationship that doesn’t feel as fabulous and authentic as it did in the beginning. Thich Naht Hahn, a prolific writer and peace activist, nominated by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. for the 1967 Nobel Peace Prize, asserts that there are four mantras that can help build healthy relationships of love. He uses the word “mantra” for these statements because they are not just one-time thoughts, but questions to bring into your relationship over and over again. The key is repetition. The next time you are having some difficulties in your relationship do not suffer in silence. Draw your partner near you and follow the guidance of Thich Naht Hahn:

I am here for you.

How comforting is it to know someone is there listening to you? And do just that- LISTEN. You don’t need to add your perceptions or judgments, just be there.

I know you are there, and I am very happy.

How reassuring it is to know someone is beside you! This comfort will soften your partner and let them know you appreciate them.

I know you are suffering. That is why I am here for you.

How good does it feel to know that someone understands your hurt? Be there with understanding and compassion.

I suffer. Please help.

How hard is it for you to ask for help? Don’t let pride stop you from voicing this need. Even the strongest people need help. These four mantras can lead to a compassionate relationship built on love, openness and honesty. They may help you to go deeper than you ever imagined was possible in the connection of two people. For more relationship counseling please call and schedule an appointment today.

Healthy Heart and Healthy Mind

10

Feb
2014
Posted By : Sally Dee 0 Comment
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A Healthy Heart and Healthy Mind

What makes a heart healthy?

The science is out that to have a healthy heart, we have to move our bodies with exercise, we have to manage our weight with proper nutrition, and we have to quit smoking. But what else makes for a healthy heart? As a therapist, I often see people that have these things going well in their life, yet their hearts are not full and content. Here are some things you can do to keep your heart healthy and strong above and beyond the physical:

Process sadness and grief

At some point in all of our lives, we will each experience sadness and grief. To process through these emotions, first we must identify and acknowledge what we are feeling. Don’t be afraid to talk to someone about what you are feeling. Holding onto negative emotions is very toxic. Talking through it with someone and being able to process though it will make a world of difference in your life.

Release stress

A small dose of stress can be good reminder of all the important things that need to be done, but stress does serious damage to our mind and bodies. It is important to release stress before we feel overwhelmed and run down. So do something that you like- go outside for a walk or a run, light candles in your room, or join a group exercise class. You can also give meditation a try. It is a wonderful tool that will help you to release the negative thinking from your life.

Live in the moment

Emily Dickinson said, “Forever is composed of nows.” The little moments are the big moments. Set time aside to experience self- realization and self- confidence. Being happy and content in your life is an attitude of knowing that the negative moments will pass and allowing the happy ones to consume your life.

Breathe deeply

It’s amazing how only a few minutes of deep breathing can change your mood. Breathing is essential to keeping calm and maintaining sanity. Daily and normal tasks can be overwhelming to our nervous system, such as sitting in traffic and making deadlines. It’s important that to take deep, rhythmic breaths giving yourself time to think through whatever is occurring in your life.

Make peace with your heart, feeling free to live in the moment, and love without limits. It is the only one you get in this lifetime!