(1)Valentine’s Day is often looked at as the holiday for dating. Restaurants want you to dine with them on their special menu, romantic comedies premiere, and it can seem like everyone is planning out their day of love.


But what to do if you are single? Do you pine away, hoping someone, anyone, will ask you out so that you too can experience the joy of a Valentine’s Day date? Think about it…is this what you want? A date with any Joe Schmoe or Jane Doe can easily become a qualifier for an “America’s Worst Dates” show and seem like the longest night of your life.
Instead, think about how great it is that you are in charge of your date with yourself. You don’t have to sit anywhere and pretend to enjoy someone’s conversation. You can do whatever you want to do. What do you want to do- what makes you happy??? Valentine’s Day is your day to shower yourself some self-love. Do you love flowers? Buy yourself some! I guarantee you will still love to see those flowers on your dining room table even if they didn’t come from a date.


Being content can be a product of perception. This Valentine’s Day, begin with feeling content by thinking of three things that you are grateful for and writing them down. Then start the pampering process! A walk through a museum or outside in nature can be deeply soothing and supportive to the bio-rhythms we experience when we feel loved.


Call a friend that you haven’t spoken to in a while. Or volunteer somewhere for a few hours. Helping others is one of the best ways to increase your happiness.


The point is to celebrate! Plan out your day so that you honor yourself with a sense of love and appreciation. Your self-worth is not linked in any way to having a date. But self-worth is linked to how well we care for ourselves. As John Lennon said,, “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”


Love yourself first and enjoy your very special, totally self-guided Valentine’s Day!